Eden & Elle Magazine March 2009 - Page 1 - Contents 3 4 8 12 16 18 28 31 34 38 40 Editors letter Debra – Woman of loving Prosperity Ward – Wingman of Thoughts Richard – Healing Man Poetic Thoughts & Feelings 97% Model of the Month – Miauw…. Marieke Paula – Empowering Connection William – Divinity Within NEW! The Monthly Alternative Shears – Mystery Man The five most important words in your life Editors letter Dear Gals & Pals, Welcome to the March 2009 issue of Eden & Elle, the magazine for ‘everyday’ women and men who are out of the ordinary – which means YOU!! It combines eye opening, true to the heart articles with timely information on a multitude of subjects, advice revealing to the reader insights not found anywhere else, and features the 'everyday' woman – women of all shapes, size and ages in a photo shoot showing that they can look just as beautiful posing for a glamour photographer as the latest centerfold. It has been a challenging month for me personally, one that I do not wish anyone to endure, and I am blessed that I have been able to focus on positive experiences like this magazine. The support from friends and family has been wonderful, and the articles sent in by the writers, who of course have become good friends, have as if the universe intended it to be so, hit very close to home making this issue a deeply special one for me. The transition of Eden & Elle magazine continues as more writers join in to contribute soul touching material, thereby, for now at least, the ‘ tips for a more beautiful you’ page is not included in this issue. Our latest new contributor William Altork is a man whos’ gift of the gab should not be underestimated. His manner of penmanship is like Shears - Mystery Man, possibly not for everyone, but I guarentee you that there is plenty of interesting food for thought! Of course, William is joined by other fantastic writers, all who lovingly and willingly share their thoughts, ideas and personal experiences with you each month in the anticipation that you as a reader can benefit from it. Debra discusses her thoughts on comfortzones, Richard shows us the possiblity of being too attached to certain things while Shears brings tears to your eyes. Paula digs deeper into inner and outer beauty and Ward shares a surprise turnaround of events. 97% Model of the Month is Marieke. I had the pleasure of having her in front of my camera and I can assure you, she definitely bursts with energy and charm, proving once again that size doesn’t matter, its’ the person that counts! With The Monthly Alternative we delve in deeper into the world of Neuro linguistic programming, as series like the Mentalist or ‘The new Uri Geller’ are big time hits on this side of the ocean. The Poetic thoughts and feelings are always heart warming to read as readers share their sometimes most inner thoughts with you. I trust you will feel the love, pride and joy that has gone into making this issue, please feel free to share it with your friends and family. Enjoy! Yours warmly, Désirée Deul Chief Editor Debra – Woman of loving Prosperity Debra Schneider is a single mom with prosperity consciousness, is old enough to have wisdom and young and healthy enough to enjoy it. After having travelled extensively through Europe and The States, she now resides in New York State together with her daughter. Taking a break from lectures Last week I saw that there was a professor who wrote a book that seemed to be very similar to my project called 100 habits for a sustainable life. I haven't seen the book, but I am sure it is well written and a valuable contribution to anyone who is looking for ways to make positive changes in their life. What I thought was more interesting was how it made me feel. Not being an overly competitive person, and having an underlying conversation called "Why should I bother if someone has already done it, probably better than I would have" it stopped me. Phew, that was close. I almost stuck my neck out and did something that might have put me out of my comfort zone. Or, is this "comfort zone" comfortable or just familiar? And is it where I want to be or is it just where I am from lack of effort. That is a sobering question. I am going through a similar situation with my 14 year old daughter. She was accepted into an International Baccalaureate program in Chicago. One of the best in the country. She is very interested in this school. There is another school she is also very interested in. They take the top 1% of the top 1%. She came close enough to get in with a little effort on my part. Basically that means committing to involve myself in her school both with time and money. Once more I am being asked to do more than is comfortable. Now, I am not exactly "comfortable" in my comfort zone. I am actually quite uncomfortable. This box is way too small for me. Although the sides are familiar and I can stay warm here, I feel such a sense of despair when I consider remaining stuck instead of living a life worth living. My daughter doesn't even have a box. You give her a space to fill and she designs the outer borders so beautifully that she is invited to take as much room as she can. I am clear that she was given to me to make sure that I don't take the "comfortable" route. She is in my life to show me that life is here to keep pushing the boundaries. The beauty is that she is not in the slightest bit uncomfortable without a box. It is her way of life. I am told I must have done something right, as she is an amazing human being. All I have done is make sure she knows that she can do anything. And I believe that about her. 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This includes businesses, corporations, including those that are non-profit as well. You are hearing this before it airs on CNN and other top media coverage early 2009. Time is of the utmost essence. My favorite quote now more potent than ever: BE THE FIRST TO INTRODUCE IT TO THE WORLD OR HAVE THE WORLD INTRODUCE IT TO YOU! ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ With Respect Debra 845 679 8656 http://www.GetTheBar.com/Default.aspx?mrid=aot4kd/wW2V1Ui3wRr3lHw==/ Ward – Wingman of Thoughts Ward de Craene (°1970) works as a music buff (or village idiot) at the local public library of Aalst. His natural clumsiness led him to sympathize with all the underdogs (and women) in the world. Needless to say he adores Cary Grant, the Peanuts-character Charlie Brown and had developed a focus on redheaded girls when he was still in his teens. These things have all helped him to try and at least empathize with others, even with his school bullies, but alas, being too empathic can lead to weird circumstances. Music is his passion, hailing from a musical family, with a professional classical singer as a sister, his mother a retired music teacher and his father as a retired amateur conductor who has obtained wide acclaim by his professional colleagues. Ward is married (but not to a redhead: he grew up a little), he has two children and he tries to combine the joy of music with a happy family life, which may sound jolly, but is not always that easy. Martin, a good friend of mine, if not, perhaps the best friend I have at the moment, is full of positive energy. You probably wouldn’t think that at first if you knew that he had dropped out from the Conservatoire, but he had told himself he didn’t need a degree to play music. So now, with a little help from friends he had formed his own big band and he was busy leading it, writing scores and arrangements and he was doing all the sound production and recording himself. I was lucky enough to be among the first pick of friends for his project. The core of my contribution last year wasn’t perhaps in the musical quality, but I provided him with a few other friends and some stability in the mental and practical sense. Maybe that was the reason why he was still phoning me, especially now with the second season underway, now that the first one had been such a success. After a splendid and hopeful first rehearsal of the season, with a new line-up and new music, we had returned home as happy as kittens with the echoes of the first sounds still in our ears. I was completely chuffed. The adjustments and replacements in the different sections clearly had paid off. But then the weekend came and all of a sudden there was Martin on the phone. The tone of his voice was ever so depressing, I could tell there was something very wrong. “I’m not happy with the way things are going now,” he said “I don’t quite know. There is something wrong. I mean, I feel unhappy even though musically, it had gone down very well.” He baffled me completely with that statement. What could possibly have been wrong? His enthusiasm at rehearsal, the sound of the different instrument sections, the way everyone seemed to fit in right away, it had all been just great. The band had everything to play a season of a lifetime, and the first readings of his arrangements were ever so promising. Personally I was absolutely over the moon with the first impression I got about it all. Did I have anything to do with it? Was it me? Did I fall short of playing up to standards? I was willing to take any criticism for the benefit of the band, like, if he wanted me to move or to leave the band, I’d wanted him to tell it to me, for the sake of the band I completely would go along with his ideas … And then slowly, it all came out. “No, it’s not that”. I was ever so glad to have been reassured about my status. “ I’ve made a big mistake,” he said “I’ve been overlooking my one big rule: the one to try and keep that strict separation between work and private life.” I just didn’t get it. Two words …“My dad ….” Right ! I hadn’t thought of that, but it was true. Martin had reacted really differently that night. He had seemed much more nervous, much more restrained in some odd way. The problem eventually had turned out to be a major issue for Martin. His dad had joined the big band, playing bass-trombone. His dad was living up to a promise he had made last year. Unluckily for Martin, his dad was the professional musician with an MA in music and a successful career as a symphonic percussionist and musical producer. His dad was a fusion of types to Martin and me. To me, he was the stereotype of the overly active, overly nervous workaholic. This was a first impression I thought to have seen clearly proven in the stature of the man himself: Martin’s dad wasn’t exactly tall and on top of that, he was extremely thin. My assumptions told me that this man his work was also his passion. He seemed the type to whom eating probably was just a waste of time, consumed as he was by work and passion for his job and his only purpose in life : music. He seemed the type of the restless perfectionist that would get on everyone’s nerves when misunderstood. If he would have been a scientist, then the danger of eccentricity would not have been far. It struck me that Martin clearly was a son to his dad, hardly eating himself, except for sandwiches with chocolate spread. The passion he would show in explaining the right field of tension between a row of chords would render any other non-music initiated person feeling quite uncomfortable. I suppose one would feel a similar queasiness when looking at fundamentalists from any other religion, whether Christian, Jewish, Muslim or any other type of hardliners of the main religions when they would be showing that distinct passion for their beliefs and the dedication to what their faith stands for. The enthusiasm of those overly happy people, having looked into the eyes of the Lord, generally would make me want to flee them as if any other would run away from a lunatic. To Martin, his dad was not just a stereotype, but he was the archetype. And ironically, that was exactly the way Martin had been looking at him that first night at the rehearsals. A dad who had raised his son, who had bred him in his own stable, who had fed him with his own passions, and also, a man who had a very similar character to his son. All these elements only showed that those great minds easily think alike ; but his dad had one other slight flaw: he simply couldn’t keep his mouth shut. It took Martin’s dad only a few little remarks to get him off balance, yet, it all went rather unnoticed by the orchestra. So there was Martin, talking to me on the phone and explaining his problem. “I got a problem with my dad and I need it solved … what should I do?” Here I was, stuck with a young guy of twenty-two. This was the guy who had successfully entertained several hundreds of people in a set of concerts last year. This was the guy who had written arrangements of songs for his bands, had handpicked his musicians, who had taken the lead over a lot of older and much more experienced people. And this very same guy, as it turned out, was about to wet his pants in having to talk to his dad. “I can’t help it, I’m afraid of my dad, I admire him so. I know he doesn’t mean any harm, but to me it all felt with those little remarks as he was taking things over. Like finishing a sentence for me because he felt what I needed to say.” “Well, Martin, what do you want? You can go talk to him now, or you can confront him with it at rehearsal. Do you think it can wait until the next band practice?” “No, I’d like this problem out of my system ASAP !” “Then go talk to your dad …” “I can’t.” I gasped for air, took a deep breath, thought for a few seconds and then replied … “Listen up Martin ! You’ve been telling me that if I do well this year, I will have grown a lot as a musician, even at my age. Perhaps it is your turn to grow as a personality and confront your dad about what’s bothering you?” Martin agreed and told me that I might be right about that, after all, he was only twenty-two. The phone-call went on for another twenty minutes. I got him this far to talk to his dad. He would close the line as he was about to start talking to him and he would call me back afterwards. In the end, his dad himself had noticed that something was wrong. Both he and Martin had a very good chat and his dad had eventually promised to try and keep his distance. And if he wouldn’t be doing that, Martin would have the right to caution him. I felt grateful to help Martin out with counselling. It was unexpected but worthwhile. It did help me realize again that the power of an example has a great influence on things and is something not to be underestimated. We all clearly need our idols to look up to if we still want to obtain the power or the openness of mind to let ourselves get inspired. Martin had grown after that chat with his dad. I obtained some new insights about myself and about people after the phone call with Martin. I guess in some way, we all had grown after that. So at least, that was something to be thankful for. Ward can be reached at thoughts@edenandelle.com "Download Your New FREE 8 Part Makeup Video Course Now!" Sign up now and I'll send my amazing makeup and beauty tips and videos absolutely free including: • The #1 mistake almost everyone makes when trying to apply makeup. • The secret trick that beauty experts don't want you to know. Six little-known secrets to applying makeup for healthier skin... the natural way. • Just enter your details and click the free instant access button and I'll send your free tips by email: "We'll Teach You the Jealously Guarded Secrets Behind Actual Dishes From Billion Dollar Restaurants - The Cheesecake Factory, KFC, The Olive Garden, PF Chang's, Red Lobster, Hard Rock Cafe... (far too many to list here) and Show You How to Easily Make Them at Home!"
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